My heart has been stirring. I feel change on the horizon; something big.
Can I be honest for a moment? I am entering a sensitive subject matter and I want to tread through it with grace. I hope you do the same.
Here it goes: Baby #3 has been beckoning me. My heart has been longing deeply to try again.
I go through so many things over and over in my head, from practical to emotional. For example, March of Dimes says to wait 18 months after having a baby before you try again (it hasn't even been a year yet), I need to lose weight, I need a better doctor, I could go into preterm labor again, the baby might have to stay in the NICU for months or I could lose this baby too. The doubts and the questions keep coming.
Am I letting fear control me? I often tell my husband that regardless of how earthly things play out, God is still in control. I could do all things in my power to ensure a healthy pregnancy and I could still lose another baby. Or I could do all things great and I could have a healthy, full-term baby. It is a hard pill to swallow: that nothing I do truly has any factor. Granted, I am trying to do what I can to ensure a healthy pregnancy but still...ultimately, I am not in control. Man, that's so tough.
The same goes for my Aaron. I wanted with my whole being to save him and I could not.
There was nothing I could do. Talk about a slap in the face.
I think what I have learned over the last year is that regardless of how I feel, God is still God. And He still loves me. Sin screwed it up. God didn't. God isn't the one to hate. He knows me. He made me! And He came to rescue me. What this earthly life holds for me, I don't know. But I trust in the fact that God will use the ugly or messy parts of my life that sin destroyed, for His glory. Because really, that why I'm here. To be used by Him; to be a lamp on a hill.
How do I deal with these deep stirrings and desires? Keep on waiting till He says go for it.
I am waiting and believing that there's still hope.
Grace and peace.
I know this is somewhat dancing around the subject matter of
free-will vs. destiny. Let me say that I am all about free will. I know God has
given me the choice to decide how I live my life. I'm just saying that
when it comes to life or death, I ain't holding the key. Also,
I feel like I need to say that just because I am wanting another baby
does not mean I am trying replace Aaron. It is just like any other
mother or woman, desiring to grow her family. Except my story has more
baggage.